HS, thank you for the explanation of your change in posting style. Though I was not one of those who wrote to you I did wonder what was up?
My only concern with your posts in recent days is that you strongly hang onto your opinions, displaying great confidence even when others have had different WTS experiences. Nevertheless, you bring well reasoned comments that usually are a breath of fresh air.
I will admit that some WTS association was positive. I learned public speaking at an early age and it has served me well ever since. I too have met some wonderful people among JWs. However, now that I am "inactive" I am viewed as "bad association" and none of my former friends make contact with me. It is difficult therefore to avoid resentment toward the WTS for its herd like training of the R&F JW.
Unlike you, my JW marriage was a disaster and probably the single worst decision of my life. I bought into the doctrine of "marry only in the Lord" and assumed that that meant only marry a JW (I was a typical non-thinking JW myself). Many years later I was blessed with a wonderful wife who respected "the Lord," but was not interested in the JWs. Finally, I got through my thick skull what "marry only in the lord" really meant.
With respect to elders, my experiences have also been different than yours. True, a few elders genuinely meant well, but so many that I encountered over the years were at the very least incompetent; others where the bullies that were discussed on an earlier thread; some where liars; some where envious; some had huge egos; and a few seemed ruthless for reasons that I never fully understood. I even discovered criminal behavior that one MS was involved in. These experiences of mine are just as real to me as your experiences have been to you. I haven?t been sure that you respected the differing experiences of others, and that is the only, and I do mean only area where I have not seen eye to eye with you.
I respect your opinions and your thoughtful comments on this board. I agree that we should be freer here to express opinions without being bombarded by our own breed of bullies. I hope that these comments to you are received in the spirit of respect and friendship in which they are offered. Please keep posting; yours are among the first that I want to read when I log on.
Warm regards,
Sam B.